My SD ammo of choice is Ranger 'T', but they're getting hard to find, and expensive. My go-to these days is HST, but you can't go wrong with Gold Dots, either. I prefer heavy-for-caliber bullets, mostly 147 gr., but will grab up 124's when a good deal presents. I avoid 115 gr. loads, except for casual plinking.
Hey, just a concern, when picking 9mm self-defense ammo, make sure it actually feeds reliably in your EDC gun. Even the best rounds can cause jams in some pistols, so testing is importnt
I'd avoid those flashy gimmicks and just go for ammo that meets FBI standards when it comes to penetration and expansion. It's important that your specific firearm can handle it reliably too. It’s a good idea to run a box or two through your carry gun to see if it feeds and cycles smoothly. You definitely want to make sure it’s all good to go.